As you might have guessed, I’ve developed a few ideas of my own about where people often go wrong when writing their profiles.I tend to see the same This is definitely the most common issue with dating profiles.
Solution: Get specific When you want to use an adjective to describe yourself, think of an anecdote or example that shows how you embody that trait and share that instead.
For example, if you are romantic, you might say, “I’m the type of partner who will plan a surprise weekend getaway to a cozy little B&B on the coast where we can snuggle in bed or watch the waves crashing on the shore.” Or if family is really important, you might write, “Nothing means more to me than spending the weekend cheering on my sons in their lacrosse games.” I always find it fascinating when a client either writes the entire profile about himself or who she’s looking for… My choice of pronouns is intentional: I’ve found, anecdotally, that more guys tend to write about themselves and don’t include much about the woman they’re seeking (except perhaps for “attractive”).
And it seems that there are definitely more women than men out there who have a long, detailed laundry list of requirements for their desired mate.
Solution: Balance it out Make sure your profile is balanced; definitely share some telling details about yourself and who you are, but save some information for the first email, date, and beyond! And if you have a really picky checklist of traits your mate must possess, remember that you’re turning away potential matches before you even get to see if, perhaps, that one requirement just isn’t quite as important as you thought (such as having dark hair or being at least six feet tall).
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